Just in case...
(I've moved this to the top of the blog as it was pointed out to me recently that many people do not read disclaimers. Now that it's at the TOP of the page, you can't blame me if you miss it.)
I'm sure most of you realize this blog is meant in fun and is in no way intended to hurt anyone's feelings, mar my husband's excellent reputation, or to be derogatory towards or defame "the game". This is my subtle attempt at satire, and also a place for people like me who simply don't understand "the game" or it's pull to many successful, middle aged men and women. Please do not send me hate mail regarding the topic, or messages telling me how immature I am for creating such an outlandish blog. Thank you.
I am a widow.
They say the best way to get over your anger and frustration of losing a loved one is to find a way to face your fears and feelings. So that’s what I’m doing here.
How did I lose my husband? Technically I haven’t. He’s still here, very much so – however when he’s involved in “the game” there’s no telling when I might get him back.
This blog is for me, and for you, and for all of those who have lost a loved one to “the game”. We will stand together in support of one another, seek to find understanding in it all, and hope that there will one day be a solution to all the un-necessary sadness that comes to those left behind…
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My husband's not into WOW but he is a PC Gamer and gets lost in those. He wears headphones so the noise from the games don't bother me if I'm in the other room "trying" to watch and listen to the TV. The headphones entirely blocks out the REAL world around him.
So, even though I'm not a WOW Widow I am a gaming widow and I sympathize.
Yep I am a widower here.
Had i known that she was on that game for 7+ hours a day and sometimes 10 hours on weekends, I probably would have re-thought this relationship.
Here is how it went and is going.
I met her and knew her for sometime, she has three fabulous girls 10 8 7. I have my son 8, She finally moved in and things were ok up until she moved her computer in. I don't really mind her being on the thing, but some things i began noticing.
It started off, " ok i plan to be on sunday night, tuesday night and wed night from 6 to9 pm" Ok I figured that there was structure on her end, but i was wrong...sorely mistaken even. its been for three weeks straight, 6+ hours a day ranging from 2 pm to 10pm and some days maybe a few hours shorter.
I addressed an issue with her on line and all the kids, mind you, I really enjoy all of them and they and I do go places and do things together without their mom who is attached to the puter.
when she has her children, I am usually the one taking care of them, laundry, dinner. lunch. bed time stuff. and barely any help. I also go to nursing school on top of that so my schedule is full.
I feel as though I was a conveniant thing for her that i can do all this stuff. but lately i have been re thinking my decision, what makes it hard is that I have severly bonded with the girls and they feel like they have a home here.
I have talked to her (the mom) about the game and restricting it to nights where the kids are not here, but what i got was " i feel likeyou are telling me what to do." wel yeah, be a supporting mom, spend time with the kids hello, you are picking a game over your girls.
Sex? nope, too tired for that at all. but she can go horseriding with her friend joey even this late at night. I also feel neglected. I dont have any obsessions other than reading for school, and book work. but mainly i manage my time well enough that i study at school and read what i have to at home early on.
I just don't know what to do. other than just sheild myself and let go.
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